Recently on social media there was a post going around about parents being told not to be on their cell phones when they pick their kids up at day care. A center had posted this sign telling their parents to get off their phones and there has been an uproar on both sides of the issue. Some parents may think it is an invasion of their privacy. Some people may feel like their parenting is being judged. Other people may feel like it’s no ones business why they are on the phone or distracted when getting their children. Overall, it really doesn’t matter what society thinks. What does matter is what your child thinks. Here are some reasons why it’s important to be present at pick up time.
Why It’s Important To Be Present At Pick Up Time.
The Day Got Off To A Bad Start-Maybe you had a rough morning and you yelled at your children. Maybe you were running late and couldn’t say goodbye at drop off time. Maybe your spouse brought your child instead of you. Regardless of the situation, your child has missed you all day. They probably can’t wait to get a hug and kiss from you and have you ask how their day was.
Your Child Is Trying To Tell You Something- Your child could have had a really great day. He or she could have gone on a field trip, had a special guest come to speak to the class or even shared in a birthday treat. They also may want to talk to you about something that went wrong that day.
Your Child’s Teacher Wants To Talk To You-It is important to check in with your child’s teacher at the end of the day to find out how their day was. You need to know if they are struggling or doing exceptional. It’s always good to check in to make sure everyone is on the same page. We appreciate your presence too. 🙂
Being Present vs. Having Presence.
To Show Your Child They Are Important-There is too much negativity in the world. Your child could have had the worst day ever. Being able to give them five minutes of your uninterrupted time after school is very important. It gives you a chance to relax, breathe, and reconnect for a minute before the your evening moves into the hectic chaos of dinner, bath time and homework (if you have older children).
Another Parent Wants To Talk To You-Another parent may want to talk to you about setting up a play date or inviting your child to a birthday party.
The next time you’re driving to day care to pick up your children, pause and reflect how it was when you were a child. If you had a Mom that stayed at home, didn’t it feel good to be able to sit down with a snack and talk to her about your day? If you were with a single Dad, didn’t it feel good to crawl on his lap at a young age and talk about your day? Or to sit around at the dinner table with your family and get caught up? We live in a fast paced world where time flies and moments pass way too quickly. Moments that cannot be recaptured.Parents, make a habit of being present at pick up time so your absence during the day won’t be so hard. It is important to be present not only at pick up time but all the time.